Children, they are sure full of surprises. No wonder they were named "A bundle of joy". My youngest niece, had truly warm my heart tonight. Just when I thought the world was crashing down on me, she came to give me a hug. That's why I always keep an open mind for the my two nieces whenever they come running to me even when I'm in a hurry, foul mood or whatever PMS thing...
They always have time for me and that's why I make sure I'll always have time for them. You may say they are just kids and when they grow up, they won't make time for me anymore. I say no. Making time for each other doesn't mean staying in the same room or space at the same. Making time is a moment when one reaches out to you and you are there truly, fully and nothing else is on your mind except the person. The energy exchanged at this point can be amazingly fulfilling and beautiful. Both parties do benefit from this moment. The exchange energy of giving and receiving from first party to second and then from second back to first. That's the basis of love. As grown ups we all tend to overlook this point most of the time or even all the time because we are always caught up with "things". What most of us didn't know is that 5-10 minutes is all it takes to experience the priceless joy of love and to build an ever lasting chemistry between the two. For example, you need to build a house on a vacant lot and this will be home to you for a lifetime. You start to invest painfully in the best builder for building the best foundation by using the best building materials you can find. 20 years later after the house was built, you are still glad and proud of the home you built. Why? It saves you money and lots of time and only a small sum were needed to spent on home maintenance each year. Imagine if you had spent less effort and was stingy about your investment, just how much more time and energy within the 20 years will be wasted on? Don't forget the amount of money too.
Children are the masters in the art of listening and being present and they really do if not how would they have learned what they were taught like language, behavior and words? They can learn any languages much faster than any adults as kids operate like sponges. They are open to anything at anytime. As adults we just have too many inner dialogues that distract us from being open. The true reason of why children as they grow older stop listening to adults has to do mainly with the parents or adults around them. Picture this, a child reaches out you but time after time the energy let out to you was not received and returned. What do you think will happen in the long run? The child will start to shut his/her energy from you for the fear of rejection. So when they become adults themselves, they do the same to their kids and everyone around them because the great fear of rejection was imprinted in their mind. Once bitten twice shy.
That's human nature. We all fear rejection. This does not only apply to the relationship between any adult and child but also applies to every relationship from lovers to friends and every human relations.
So when was the last time you were truly fully present for someone? You better be there for that person next time he/she reaches for you because if not, that maybe the last time you see them. Never assume there's always a next time too. If only adults were as open as a child in the first place, the world will be a much beautiful place. The older we grow, the less we are open to learn. I must say at times adults have to learn from kids too.
Just my two cents on life.
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